ChristianMilitaryWives

    I thought I would share with you ladies a book that changed my whole perspective on marriage.  It is called ''CREATED TO BE HIS HELP MEET'' by Debi Pearl.  It influenced my life and my husband's life.
    This book reminds women that we are created to be helpers to our husbands, not the other way around.  We all have things our husbands ask us to do and we grumble about it.  Mine has always been when my husband asks me to hold his green army bag open so he can pack it.  Don't exactly know why, but I really dislike this job.  However, I realize God wants me to help and honor my husband by holding his green army bag open...so I will, and now without complaint.
   Sadly, we live in a society where husbands are expected to always do things for their wives.  What is in it for me?  My husband is supposed to fufill all my needs and wants.  Wrong! We are to be our husband's help meet, not the other way around.
   Recently My hubby and me went on a trip to the beach for his leave. We had a 4 hour drive. I decided to bring this book along and maybe read some.  Well, my hubby was interested in the book, since I had told him it had greatly influenced my life. He asked me to read it aloud.  I read the section about 3 kinds of men.  They are Mr. Command Man, Mr. Visionary, and Mr. Steady.  Many men have a combination of 2 or all 3.  When I started reading about Mr. Visionary, my husband kept laughing.  He told me he was probably 60-70%  Mr. Visionary.  My husband was happy to learn who he was, and it was helpful for me as well.  There were some things he did that I totally did not understand till I read this.  For instance, my hubby would always be gung-ho about starting a project and often leave it unfinished. I thought my husband was lazy with these projects and it really irritated me.  What I came to realize, is that the visionary will often start a project and get distracted with another one and never finish the one they started.  Wow! It changed my perspective!  He hadn't realized he had been doing this till I pointed out some specific examples. We were both floored.  It helped me be more understanding, and him to be more aware.
   This book also shares mistakes other women made in their marriages. These womens' only goal is to warn you not to make the same mistakes they made and risk pushing your husband away...maybe forever. Be prepared, you will need a box of tissues.
   The 2nd part of the book goes in depth on Titus 2.  How the older women are supposed to teach the younger women. Each chapter focuses on what kind of women we are to be.  We are to be sober, lovers of our husbands, lovers of our children, discreet,chaste, keepers at home, good, and obedient to our own husbands.
   Debi answers some tough questions from women, backing up her responses with scripture.  It  is a changing book! At times it can be hard to swallow, but if you let it change you, it will.  It will change your marriage!
   My husband was so impressed, he told me if I found some good books on marriage for men, he would read them.  My hubby has never been much of a reader.  So, I found 3 books that were recommended to me, ''MAN AFTER GOD'S OWN HEART, HUSBAND AFTER GOD'S OWN HEART, and POWER OF A PRAYING HUSBAND.  He told me he has started reading the books( over seas) and that they are actually pretty good!  Wow!  I wonder if I had never shared this book with him, if he would be reading books on being a better husband!
   The book ''CREATED TO BE HIS HELP MEET'' is a great book on becoming a godly wife. It is both helpful and convicting!  If you read it with a right heart and open mind, seriously desiring to be a better Christian wife, then God will change you and bless you with a better marriage.  You will be amazed how God will change your husband as well!
   So, I urge you to get this book!  You will not be disappointed!  It may just be a turning point in your marriage as it was in mine.