Military pediatricians and youth professionals developed DVD’s to helpmilitary children understand and deal with the emotions related to a family member’s deployment.
The United States Army Medical Command and the American Academy ofPediatrics produced “Military Youth Coping with Separation: When FamilyMembers Deploy,” to address a variety of deployment-related concerns for teens. For elementary age children there is a, “Mr. Poe and Friends Discuss Reunion After Deployment” DVD. The animated host, Mr. Poe, mentors and provides guidance to children and family members as they discuss deployment.
For more information about the DVDs visithttp://www.tricare.mil/pressroom/news.aspx?fid=396.
Both videos are available for online viewing on the American Academy of Pediatrics Deployment Support Web site at www.aap.org/sections/unifserv/deployment/
index.htm.They are also available for ordering, in DVD format, through Military One Source at 1-800-342-9647 orhttp://www.militaryonesource.com/skins/MOS/
home.aspxMilitary pediatricians and youth professionals developed DVDs to help military children understand and deal with the emotions related to a family member’s deployment.
The United States Army Medical Command and the American Academy of Pediatrics produced “Military Youth Coping with Separation: When Family Members Deploy,” to address a variety of deployment-related concerns for teens. For elementary age children there is a, “Mr. Poe and Friends Discuss Reunion After Deployment” DVD. The animated host, Mr. Poe, mentors and provides guidance to children and family members as they discuss deployment.
For more information about the DVDs visit: http://www.tricare.mil/pressroom/news.aspx?fid=396.
Both videos are available for online viewing on the
American Academy of Pediatrics Deployment Support Web site at:www.aap.org/sections/unifserv/deployment/
index.htm.They are also available for ordering, in DVD format, through Military One Source at: 1-800-342-9647 orhttp://www.militaryonesource.com/skins/MOS/
home.aspx
An Apple a Day
By Melafwife
I love apples; in pies, in cake, in salads, as sauce and the best way: right from the tree.
Apples are all natural, no fat, no cholesterol, no sodium and a great source of fiber (about 5g/large apple)
Research shows that eating apples can
- Help fight cancer and heart disease
- Strengthen bones
Here is a quick guide to some of my favorite apples:
1. McIntosh: juicy with a sweet and tart taste, bruise easily. Not recommended for pies because of the abundance of juice
2. Gala: Firm, juicy, fine textured, yellow white flesh. Sweet slightly tart flavor
3. Golden Delicious: Firm, crisp, juicy, flavorful flesh. Mild sweet distinctive flavor. High quality all purpose. Shrivels in storage. Requires gentle picking, bruises easily.
4.Red Delicious: Most purchased apple variety in the United States. Deep red skin covers a sweeter flavored apple. Poor for baking
5. Cortland: Very white crisp flesh. One of the best salad apples because it doesn't brown quickly
6.Jonagold: juicy, slightly tart, flesh. Good cooking properties. Will store in common refrigerator for 3 months.
7. Red Rome: Named for an apple-growing area in Ohio, not Italy. Slightly tart. Best for baking.
8. Idared: slightly tart flavor and hold their shape well making them an excellent choice for baking and cooking.
9. Honeycrisp: crisp and juicy, with a honey-sweet and tart flavor. Honeycrisps are also good for baking and sauce.
10. Granny Smith: One of the most popular tart apples, Granny Smiths are crisp and quite sour. They're a good all-purpose cooking apple, and their flavor is enhanced when paired with sweeter, spicier apples in pies and crisps.
And since I am a collector of quotes; here are some apple ones:
"When the apple is ripe it will fall." -- Irish proverb
"Good apple pies are a considerable part of our domestic happiness." -- Jane Austen
"I tell you, all politics is apple sauce." -- Will Rogers
"The rotten Apple spoils his Companion”
Benjamin Franklin
And on to some apple facts:
-Washington, New York, Michigan, Pennsylvania, and California are the top 5 apple-producing states in the U.S. In all, 36 states produce apples commercially.
-The apple is the official state fruit of Washington, New York, Rhode Island, and West Virginia.
-There are more than 7500 varieties of apples grown in the world. About 2500 varieties are grown in the United States.
-Red Delicious is the most popular and most-produced apple in the United States. Golden Delicious is the second most popular.
-The only apple native to North America is the crabapple.
-Half the United States apple crop is turned into apple products like applesauce and apple juice.
-Apple trees don't bear their first fruit until they are four or five years old.
-Archaeologists have evidence of people eating apples as far back as 6500 B.C.
Look out for apple recipes in my Hearth section during the month of March! Starting with homemade applesauce this weekend!
Hugs & Blessings,
Melanie
Wilmington, NC Military Wives & Children Conference
By Patti KatterSaturday, May 15, 2010
*Wonderful inspiration from military wife and author of Wife of a Soldier, a Journey of Faith, Diana Juergens
Military Youth Coping With Separation: Deployment DVDs Available
By ClaireThe Art of Being a Military Kid
By ClairePay close attention to the deadline... I just found this. The entry has to be postmarked by this coming Friday, February 26th!
The MCEC's 2010 Call for the Arts:
The Art of Being a Military Child
The Military Child Education Coalition (MCEC) seeks to promote
the Arts by featuring the great works of military children.
Each year children are asked to submit work that can be
utilized in the MCEC's publications, conferences, and other
activities. Included in the request for work from
military-connected children, kindergarten through high school,
are artwork, film, and writing (essays, poetry, and short
stories).
Artwork in the visual arts is featured at the MCEC's national conference each year. It is utilized in the On The Move magazine, the annual calendar, the conference program, and other MCEC publications.
Writing, including essays, poetry, and short stories, is featured in the national conference program, the On The Move magazine, the annual calendar, and other MCEC publications.
Film is considered for the "Reel Military" Youth Film and Video Festival at the national conference each year.
Please see the attached documents for details. All submissions must be postmarked no later than February 26, 2010.
Information Link to the .pdf file with all Entry Information
MCEC's 2010 Call for the Arts: The Art of Being a Military Child
How to read an LES and Why you should!
By Claire
LES 101: What it tells you and
why you should examine it every payday
By: Claire Shackelford
When my husband first joined the military I had so many new names, acronyms, and forms thrown my way that I was sent into information overload. I had a very hard time prioritizing what item of business should be taken care of before another. Fortunately, I had a very wise and experienced Army wife who shared a sage piece of advice with me. I want to pass that along to you.
She said that as soon as the essentials were taken care of (such as making sure all of the information in DEERS is correct and housing is nailed down) to be sure to comb over my husband’s LES every single payday.
If an error is made and the military overpays your spouse, did you know they can and will take it back out of a future paycheck once the error is found? I have talked to a few wives who had not kept up with their husband’s LES and then the find out that there has been an error and the military will be taking a chunk of an upcoming paycheck. It has happened to some families, and much to their own financial chagrin.
Here are some pointers and basic information that will help you use the LES to keep yourself informed:
- Always know your spouse’s base pay and your BAH pay. The only time this should fluctuate is during training, after a PCS (adjustments for cost of living), and other normal raises and allowances. Always investigate any unexpected increase or decrease in pay. Be sure it is not an error. If you are not sure about an increase, never spend the money. Always set it aside until you are certain. Two things to remember: 1. If the Army owes you money they will pay it back in small increments. 2. If you owe the military money they normally take it out in one huge chunk! It’s better to have that extra money sitting in savings so that when it’s time to pay the military piper you are not left flat!
- If you are missing money on your LES report it immediately. Be sure to take the name of each person you may have to talk with, and be sure to get specific information such as when you can expect to see the money you are owed reflected on your LES.
- Know what information is on your LES and what it tells you. Following the LE displayed below is a key to help you understand what each line means (image fromwikipedia) Continue reading beyond the picture for a detailed description of each item on the LES:
Here's a link to a large image of an LES. I had it posted here but it's messing up the format of the post. Feel free to open it in another tab for reference if needed.
(The following information was found on
www.dfas.mil)
Field 1 NAME. The member’s name in last,
first, middle initial format.
Field 2 SOC. SEC. NO. The member’s Social
Security Number.
Field 3 GRADE (or rank). The member’s
current pay grade.
Field 4 PAY DATE. The date the member
entered active duty for pay purposes in
YYMMDD format. This is synonymous with the Pay Entry
Base Date (PEBD).
Field 5 YRS SVC. In two digits, the actual
years of creditable service.
Field 6 ETS. The Expiration Term of Service
in YYMMDD format. This is synonymous with the Expiration of
Active Obligated Service (EAOS).
Field 7 BRANCH. The branch of service,
i.e., Navy.
Field 8 ADSN/DSSN. The Disbursing Station
Symbol Number used to identify each disbursing office.
Field 9 PERIOD COVERED. This is the period
covered by the individual LES. Normally it will be for one
calendar month. If this is a separation LES, the separation date
will appear in this field.
Field 10 ENTITLEMENTS. In columnar style
the names of the entitlements and allowances being paid. Space is
allocated for fifteen entitlements and/or allowances. If more
than fifteen are present the overflow will be printed in the
remarks block. Any retroactive entitlements and/or allowances
will be added to like entitlements and/or allowances.
Field 11 DEDUCTIONS. The description of the
deductions are listed in columnar style. This includes items such
as taxes, SGLI, Mid-month pay and dependent dental plan. Space is
allocated for fifteen deductions. If more than fifteen are
present the overflow will be printed in the remarks block. Any
retroactive deductions will be added to like deductions.
Field 12 ALLOTMENTS. In columnar style the
type of the actual allotments being deducted. This includes
discretionary and non-discretionary allotments for savings and/or
checking accounts, insurance, bonds, etc. Space is allocated for
fifteen allotments. If a member has more than one of the same
type of allotment, the only differentiation may be that of the
dollar amount.
Field 13 +AMT FWD. The amount of all unpaid
pay and allowances due from the prior LES.
Field 14 + TOT ENT. The figure from Field
20 that is the total of all entitlements and/or allowances
listed.
Field 15 - TOT DED. The figure from Field
21 that is the total of all deductions.
Field 16 - TOT ALMT. The figure from Field 22
that is the total of all allotments.
Field 17 = NET AMT. The dollar value of all
unpaid pay and allowances, plus total entitlements and/or
allowances, minus deductions and allotments due on the current
LES.
Field 18 - CR FWD. The dollar value of all
unpaid pay and allowances due to reflect on the next LES as the
+AMT FWD.
Field 19 = EOM PAY. The actual amount of
the payment to be paid to the member on payday.
Fields 20 - 22 TOTAL. The total amounts for
the entitlements and/or allowances, deductions and allotments
respectively.
Fields 23 through 30 contain leave
information.
Fields 31 through 36 contain Federal Tax withholding
information.
Fields 37 through 41 contain Federal Insurance
Contributions Act (FICA) information.
Fields 42 through 47 contain State Tax
information.
Field 48 BAQ TYPE. The type of Basic
Allowance for Quarters being paid.
Field 49 BAQ DEPN. A code that indicates
the type of dependent.
- I - Member married to member/own right
- R - Own right
- A - Spouse
- C - Child
- W - Member married to member, child under 21
- G - Grandfathered
- D - Parent
- K - Ward of the court
- L - Parents in Law
- S - Student (age 21-22)
- T - Handicapped child over age 21
Field 50 VHA ZIP. The zip code used in the
computation of Variable Housing Allowance (VHA) if entitlement
exists.
Field 51 RENT AMT. The amount of rent paid
for housing if applicable.
Field 52 SHARE. The number of people with
which the member shares housing costs.
Field 53 STAT. The VHA status; i.e.,
accompanied or unaccompanied.
Field 54 JFTR. The Joint Federal Travel
Regulation (JFTR) code based on the location of the member for
Cost of Living Allowance (COLA) purposes.
Field 55 DEPNS. The number of dependents
the member has for VHA purposes.
Field 56 2D JFTR. The JFTR code based on the
location of the member’s dependents for COLA purposes.
Field 57 BAS TYPE. An alpha code that indicates
the type of Basic Allowance for Subsistence (BAS) the member is
receiving, if applicable. This field will be blankfor officers.
- B - Separate Rations
- C - TDY/PCS/Proceed Time
- H - Rations-in-kind not available
- K - Rations under emergency conditions
Field 58 CHARITY YTD. The cumulative amount of
charitable contributions for the
calendar year.
Field 59 TPC. This field is used by
reserves.
Field 60 PACIDN. The activity Unit
Identification Code (UIC)
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If you experience any problems with your LES address them immediately. Be sure to take the name of the individual you talk with. This helps if there is any conflict in information shared.
Newlywed Valentine's Day Contest Winner!
By AprilleI'd like to take this post to recognize the winner of our Newlywed Valentine's Day contest! The requirements for participation were simply to write a post about a memorable date that the CMW member had had with her husband.
The prize was a "Date Night" gift basket valuing over $100!! The basket included candles, popcorn, sparkling grape juice, a girly bath set, a Blockbuster gift card, a couples devotional book, an audio playbook of The Five Love Languages, a book with creative date ideas, and a specially donated leather-bound journal copy of The Love Dare and the movie Fireproof! A SPECIAL thanks goes out to The Source Bookstore for their donation of the Love Dare and the movie! Thanks also to Sears Heroes at Home Wish Registry and Military One Source for some of the other donations!
The winner was chosen by putting all of the names in a bowl...my hubby drew the winner.
And the winner is....
Since Brandon is a twin, he had never really had a birthday celebration that was solely for him. I decorated my whole apartment, in Happy Birthday decorations, balloons, and party favors. I made a fancy dish called Ren Cha La with mashed potatos and corn. After we were done with dinner, I brought out a cheesecake (his favorite) with candles. He loved it because he had never gotten to blow out his own candles before. It was such a special evening and memory because we had a great time without spending hardly any money.
Arise & Eat
By Aprille(Written by CMW Newlywed Member Meagan Eskew)
From My Utmost for His Highest: “Taking the Initiative Against Depression”
“The angel in this passage did not give Elijah a vision, or explain the Scriptures to him, or do anything remarkable. He simply told Elijah to do a very ordinary thing, that is, to get up and eat. If we were never depressed, we would not be alive — only material things don’t suffer depression. If human beings were not capable of depression, we would have no capacity for happiness and exultation. There are things in life that are designed to depress us; for example, things that are associated with death. Whenever you examine yourself, always take into account your capacity for depression.
When the Spirit of God comes to us, He does not give us glorious visions, but He tells us to do the most ordinary things imaginable. Depression tends to turn us away from the everyday things of God’s creation. But whenever God steps in, his inspiration is to do the most natural, simple things — things we would never have imagined God was in, but as we do them we find Him there. The inspiration that comes to us in this way in an initiative against depression. But we must take the first step and do it in the inspiration of God. If, however, we do something simply to overcome our depression, we will only deepened it. But when the Spirit of God leads us instinctively to do something, the moment we do it the depression is gone. As soon as we arise and obey, we enter a higher plane of life.”
Wow. Ok God. I get it.
I have been struggling with depression lately – being away from all I’ve ever known, feeling alone, not sure at all everything I need to do here, being in a spiritually deprived environment. And most of all, making myself feel guilty for not being happy – I mean, I am oh so happy to be with my husband again, and being able to spend almost every day with him here. However, I haven’t been truly happy all the time like I feel I should be. I’ve struggled with this daily since my arrival…. Loving being with my husband and feeling extremely blessed because of this, but also feeling unhappy for being away from my friends, family, job, church, etc. and trying to figure out this new way of life.
I knew this “depression” would be a reality to face – I felt somewhat prepared and thought I knew how to handle it…. stay positive, stay in God’s Word, pray, focus on your husband, stay busy, it could be worse, on and on and on… all great and true things. However, I still have struggled and didn’t understand why.
Our long-planned trip to Italy was light on the horizon. Hope.
Something to look forward to, to get away from all I’m dealing
with, and to finally be able to just enjoy being with Austin…
Don’t get me wrong – our trip was absolutely amazing
I am so thankful for the opportunity to
travel with Austin, and see things we never thought we would be
able to see. It provided much needed time for us – a get-away.
However, for some reason I still continued to struggle with
feeling depressed… even standing under an unbelievable, beautiful
cathedral, holding hands, taking pictures, eating gelato and
pizza… I still felt that I wasn’t as happy as I could be.
Over the course of our 4-day weekend, Austin and I had a lot of ups and downs. I felt myself getting sucked farther into a hole… and I finally felt God’s grip on me, using Austin to reach out and get to the bottom of things. Deep and meaningful conversations followed, and I feel like I finally let go and let Austin completely take care of me, trusting him fully, and refusing to let the doubts that Satan has been using to take hold of me anymore and get in the way of my relationship with my husband. I know I am not perfect, and there will be many times where one or both of us will put up that wall of defense again, or will misunderstand each other and not try to find out what the real problem is…. However, I feel that we have grown leaps and bounds this week, and I am beginning to feel the climb back to the top.
A simple comment made by a friend yesterday really made everything click for me…. His wife was contemplating quitting her job, and his thoughts on it were that she is a much happier person on the days she doesn’t work, and coming home to happy wife is the best thing ever. Even if he’s had a completely horrible day at work, coming home to a joyful wife made everything better.
I’ve heard this my whole life… but it never made so much sense to me. I see so clearly how my attitude and the way I handle things – from the way I greet my husband when he walks in the door, to simply having a smile on my face while I cook dinner, or even having a good attitude even after another delay with housing – how I let things affect me, has a huge affect on him and our marriage.
God is working… I love it
I’m finally seeing how things are working
together for good… While I realize that the struggles and my
circumstances have not changed, and I will continue to face more
unknowns and frustrations, I know that God is using them and
working out my walk with Him through them, as well as
strengthening my walk with my husband. Another Genesis week… and
it’s beginning with me. Austin came home to a happy wife
yesterday, and it made all the difference in the world. Even
after a frustrating day of more housing delays, it was a good
day. The circumstance did not change, the frustration did not
change, and I still shared this with Austin… however, the way I
went about it – not immediately “going off” when he got home
(“you’ll never believe what happened today!”) not going on and on
about it, and not complaining or voicing my concerns about
something that he can do nothing about. I shared with him what
happened, what my concerns where, and asked him his thoughts
about it. We came up with a plan of action, made a decision, and
that was it. We ate dinner, watched a movie, talked with his mom
and grandma on skype, and had a wonderful evening together…
I am finding the joy in the every day things – not because I’m trying to stay positive, or because I’m trying to get myself out of a depression, or because I’m trying to make my husband happy, or I feel like I have to – I am finding the joy in welcoming my husband home, in holding his hand, in eating dinner together, in cleaning our room, in picking up after him, in laying out his clothes, in every little thing, just because I can. Because I am seeking my joy in Christ and Christ has blessed me with these everyday things – to experience joy. I have been seeking Him and asking for answers… how to handle this, how to communicate better, how to be happy, how to serve and respect my husband, how to be not depressed anymore…
It was in my depression that God showed me how to find my joy again… Arise and eat. Do the everyday things with my husband and realize the fullness of life that I have been given. I have a great capacity for joy and exultation, and I am loving embracing this new-found joy and sharing it with Austin.
Yankee Candle CMW Valentines Day Winner!
By Patti Katter
Attention Ladies! We have a winner for our Valentines Day, Yankee
Candle contest.
Rose from our Fort Bragg CMW Chapter went up to a complete
stranger ((Mike)) and asked him to draw a name from our ziplock
baggy full of names who entered the CMW Valentines Day
Contest.
Mike was a great sport, and helped us out... Thank you,
Mike!
AF Keli has won a $25 to Yankee Candle. Congratulations,
Keli!
The Scent of a Godly Woman
By Claire
The Scent of a Godly Woman

Mary did not understood it all, but Jesus defends her actions to the dissenters around her later in the same chapter, as recorded in verse 8 "Leave her alone," Jesus replied. " It was intended that she should save this perfume for the day of my burial."
Mary did not fully understand the will of God concerning her Lord, but what she did know was she was in the presence of her Savior. She had a beautiful opportunity to worship at His feet, and He was certainly worthy of her best. She was moved to worship and she responded.
Essential oils make wonderful fragrances. They do not wear off or smell like acetone or alcohol after time like our modern colognes. Oils do not wear off and they carry their scent for days, sometimes. Mary's hair was full of that scent for possibly days or longer. Remember she poured an entire pint and used her hair as the means to swab the scent on Jesus' feet.
Find out what your valuable things are, offer them freely to the Lord and see what wondrous things He performs with nothing more than a willing heart and an open hand.
Military Wife Fellowship Blog Spotlight: Fort Knox
By AprilleOne of the groups that has been started is our group at Fort Knox. Fort Knox Christian Military Wives Fellowship is open to all Christian military wives in the Fort Knox, Radcliff, and Elizabethtown area. The group exists to provide Christ-honoring fellowship, prayer time, fun, and moral support to military wives of all ages. It is a ministry of the organization Christian Military Wives (christianmilitarywives.com).
Our get-togethers are always going to be spiritually-minded. We are not a group for gossip about other women or tear down our husbands. Ladies I would ask that at our meetings you refrain from un-Christian behavior and language. We are trying to establish monthly (and possibly bi-monthly depending on schedules) fellowship times and meetings.
If you are interested in joining our group and meeting other ladies in the Fort Knox area for fellowship, there are a couple of different places you can find us:
1. Here on CMW. If you haven't yet become a member on our website, please do so! (christianmilitarywives.com) Once there, you can find us under the "groups" tab at the top, or simply follow this link: http://www.christianmilitarywives.com/groups/profile/103
2. We have started a group on Facebook, to make it very simple to find new members and make it easy to include everyone in all of our events. You can find the link to our group here: http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=188530807080&ref=ts
I hope that you will check out our group!
Thank you!


